So many things to be grateful for!

December Newsletter

We want to thank everyone who has generously donated to our #GivingTuesday fundraiser.  Feel free to hop on board; it is still going for at least another week.  So far, your charitable giving has brought in over $2500!

Other ways to support us in supporting families:

Turn your great ride into a great gift this holiday season!  Grow a Strong Family accepts cars, trucks, boats, RVs, and other vehicles as a form of support— and we provide free and convenient pick-up within 72 hours of completing the donation.

Call 855-500-7433 or click here to contact a Donor Representative to learn more about how easy it is to donate a vehicle— but hurry! Give your vehicle a chance to drive cheer and support to those who need it most before it’s too late to qualify for a 2018 tax deduction.

Donations in honor of or in memory of are now accepted being accepted through: https://growastrongfamily.org/donations/

Another way to give is to buy and give to people you know, copies of “Safety Procedures for Families to Defuse Mental Illness Crises at Home,” by Nancy Pizzo Bucher: http://indieauthorbooks.com/nonfiction

For quick and easy resources: there is now a GASF Brochures page: here is the link https://growastrongfamily.org/sample-page/resources/brochures/ .

The module on, “Defensive, not Offensive,” in the Family Strategies section of the Care4Carers tab is complete!  Reframing the behaviors, we experience enables us to identify symptomatic behaviors.  Reframing what we experience from our loved ones, frees us to use our strategies for communicating concerns and implementing the safety plans in place.  https://growastrongfamily.org/self-care/defensive-not-offensive/

A module has been developed on “Crisis Management and Safety Protocols”.  As the title suggests, this is the nuts and bolts of creating an implementable crisis management plan, including a portfolio for emergencies.  https://growastrongfamily.org/self-care/safety-crisis-management/

This month, we are completing the module on “The 7 C’s.” This answers the “why” of self-care and offers some ideas for the “how.”  https://growastrongfamily.org/self-care/the-7-cs/

FREE COACHING OPPORTUNITY!  Volunteers are needed to participate in a televised coaching session on “Developing a Safety Plan.”  Date for the taping at Bedford TV is W Jan 9 from 1-2:30. There will be a complimentary private session prior to the taping. Please let us know ASAP your interest!  GASFInc@outlook.com

Replanting Lives has been moved the morning group on the second Tuesday from 10:30-noon to the New England Center for Healthy Minds in Acton.  It is still in session on the second Wednesday from 7-8:30 pm at the Bedford Council of Aging.  This is a support group which offers effective tools and strategies, humor, and relief to family members uprooted by mental illness in their loved ones.

We hold Board Meetings every 4-6 weeks.  In these meetings, we discuss development and growth for Grow a Strong Family, outreach, marketing, fundraising, and programming.  All are welcome.  The next meeting with be held on Jan 27 from 4:30-6 in our home offices.  Call 781.405.8376 for more information.

Another way to give!

Turn your great ride into a great gift this holiday season!  Grow a Strong Family accepts cars, trucks, boats, RVs, and other vehicles as a form of support— and we provide free and convenient pick-up within 72 hours of completing the donation.

Call 855-500-7433 or Click to donate car to contact a Donor Representative to learn more about how easy it is to donate a vehicle— but hurry! Give your vehicle a chance to drive cheer and support to those who need it most before it’s too late to qualify for a 2018 tax deduction

#GivingTuesday

#GivingTuesday

We started early  to get the ball rolling!  We want to raise $6000 in order to produce 8 more modules of skills and strategies for family members uprooted by a loved one’s mental illness.

One in five people will experience an episode of mental illness at some point in their lives.  When this happens, the effect on loved ones is enormous.  Feeling helpless and powerless in the face of illness that cannot be fixed by love is very hard and tends to cause unproductive responses.  At Grow a Strong Family, we recognize that knowledge increases the odds that love flows unhindered, advocacy occurs naturally, and outcomes for our loved ones are significantly improved.  We also acknowledge that having access to comprehensive information, resources, strategies, and a network of knowledgeable people is essential for family members.  That is why our online presence is our strength; we are available 24/7!

Your generosity supports us in supporting you!  Thank you  #GivingTuesday

Thanks Giving!

This is a time of harvest, joyous reflection, gathering with friends and family.  This is also a time when so many are triggered and become unwell.  With that in mind, do what you can to take good, loving care of yourself.  Give to your Self the gift of companionship, as best you can.

Don’t look the other way!  Grow a Strong Family has many resources to share, especially around the holidays!  Visit us!  Consider donating on GivingTuesday, Nov 27, or any time!  https://www.facebook.com/donate/183175309291741/?fundraiser_source=external_url

Thank you and have a warm holiday.

Mental Illness and Violence

I was listening to Representative Joe Kennedy on WGBH Radio on October 11, 2018 (https://www.wgbh.org/news/national-news/2018/10/11/rep-joe-kennedy-ted-cruzs-unpopularity-is-the-one-unifier-in-washington ) and I was struck by his comment, “only in mental health/behavioral health do we force families to wait for their loved ones to be at the equivalent of stage three cancer before receiving help in a timely manner.”  Incidents of family violence due to undertreated and untreated mental illness is rampant.

The recent family violence in Acton MA in which a father was stabbed to death (with scissors), mother injured and released, and girlfriend and stabbed and strangled, perpetrated by 25-year-old Benjamin DiCrisitina experiencing a psychotic break, is another incident of inadequate mental health intervention. Sadly, mother and son had gone to the ER the day before due to the increasingly psychotic behavior of the young man.  He was released with a list of programs to look into.  Now he is a murderer.

In spite of repeated police intervention, including a merry go round of emergency evaluations and hospital discharges, Jeffrey Yao, the Winchester man who stabbed a 24-year-old woman at the public library, was diagnosed with untreated schizophrenia.  This is a condition that was known by his parents and the community at large, however there was no recourse to providing care to an unwilling patient until he committed a crime of harm to another or himself.

Nikolas Cruz, the Parkland shooter, has a long history of mental illness.  He had been involved in JROTC and had access to guns.  We all know the rest.

Family members are on the front lines, providing care and resources to their adult loved ones who are often too ill to function as independent adults.  Individuals with serious mental illness (SMI) confer great burdens to their families in particular and their communities in general.  Within the scope of the work, there is the first priority of developing a safety plan (https://growastrongfamily.org/safety/ ) to defuse crises and promote the well-being of all.  This usually includes developing a profile of their loved one and making it available to the local police (for if and when they are needed to intervene) as well as whatever community mental health resources are available.  Families understand, all too well, the potential for violence when their loved ones are untreated or under-treated.  Family members are often handcuffed by a system that excludes their feedback and maintains a stance of the “civil rights” of people with SMI over family investment.  That is the current scenario. So, we ask, what is the relationship, if any, between violence and mental illness?

The research evidence conclusively shows that the large majority of people with SMI are never violent and that most interpersonal violence in the US, 95–97%, is not attributable to mental illness (Swanson, McGinty et al, 2014; McGinty, et al, 2018; emphasis mine).  What are we talking about here, in terms of numbers of adults impacted with SMI?  The Center for Behavioral Health Statistics and Quality (2015) published from the results of a 2014 survey indicates, “1 in 5 adults aged 18 or older (18.1% or 43.6 million adults) had any mental illness in the past year, and 4.1% (9.8 million adults) had serious mental illness.”  These numbers are consistent with those acquired over the past decade.

Cook & Goss (2014) and Jaffe (2017) note that “Untreated serious mental illness (SMI as in schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, and depression), especially when paired with substance abuse, are at increased risk of committing violence against others. In over 20 studies, SMI tends to be three to five times more likely to commit violence than are people without such a diagnosis.  Most of the violence perpetrated by these individuals tend to be directed at those they know and in private spaces.  Furthermore, they tend to commit suicide rather than commit homicides by more than two to one and this is estimated to be a factor in 80-90% of self-inflicted death.  To reiterate, “Epidemiologic studies show that the large majority of people with serious mental illnesses are never violent. However, mental illness is strongly associated with increased risk of suicide, which accounts for over half of US firearms–related fatalities (Swanson et al, 2015).”  In addition, the research has identified that more than half of the mass murders in the past century, have been committed by individuals with an SMI diagnosis.

The most comprehensive response to this issue comes from DJ Jaffe (2017), the Executive Director of Mental Illness Policy Org, and the author of Insane consequences: How the mental health industry fails the mentally ill. This well researched volume is a must-read for anyone who is interested in the issues related to mental illness and violence.  This well-researched tome is significant in that it poses solutions to reduce the adverse impact of violence by the untreated individual with a co-occurring diagnosis of serious mental illness and substance use disorder.  The other piece that is so important to understand is the impact of these individuals on their families; the interpersonal violence that is perpetrated and the trauma of suicidal behavior or success that these families must manage.

In addition to diagnosis, Jaffe recommends the following: use the term “mental illness” in nomenclature in order to establish the focus on illness that can be treated.  Ensure that criminal justice leaders are on mental illness policy committees since the criminal justice system has become the mental illness system.  Preserve hospitals by eliminating limits on the length of hospital stays for people with SMI.  Redefine HIPPA and other privacy acts so that parent-caregivers are members of the healthcare team.  Invest in research and treatment for this population.  Instead of treatment after violence to self or others, enable involuntary commitments to Assisted Outpatient Treatment.  Involuntary treatment criteria include those who are gravely disabled (provide own basic needs); likely to deteriorate without treatment; lacks capacity (unable to understand the need for treatment); consider past history.  Screen civilly committed patients and mentally ill prisoners who are about to be released since they are most at risk of violence when untreated.  Train law enforcement.  Create and expand mental health courts. Enact a “Guilty due to Mentally Ill” plea mandating long-term mental illness treatment in order to minimize risk of repeat offense due to mental illness, including time served in a hospital.  Fund programs that have evidence that they work for this population including access to doctors, medications.  Create supported housing and group homes.  Establish intensive case management and assertive community teams.  Open clubhouses.

For now, I urge families to develop safety plans.  Purchase the soon to be released handbook by Nancy Pizzo Bucher  (2018) called, “Defusing the mental health triangle: Safety procedures for families during crises at home.”  Attend our free Replanting Lives support groups, visit our website regularly for strategies, and call or text us at 781.405.8376 with any question at any time.  You will get a response within 24 hours usually sooner.

 

  1. Bucher, N.P. Defusing the mental health triangle: Safety procedures for families during crises at home. ©2018 Indie Author Books, Thomaston Maine.
  2. Cook, Phillip J., and Goss, Kristen A. The gun debate: What everyone needs to know.  (Oxford University Press, 2014).
  3. Follman, “Mass Shootings: Maybe What We Need Is a Better Mental‐Health Policy,” Mother Jones, November 9, 2012;
  4. Jaffe, D.J. Insane consequences: How the mental health industry fails the mentally ill. Prometheus Books: Amherst NY (2017).
  5. Swanson, J. W., McGinty, E. E., Fazel, S., & Mays, V. M. (2015). Mental illness and reduction of gun violence and suicide: bringing epidemiologic research to policy. Annals of Epidemiology25(5), 366–376. http://doi.org/10.1016/j.annepidem.2014.03.004

Fundraiser at Flatbreads in Bedford!

 

Tuesday, October 9, 2018

5-9pm

Flatbreads Bedford!

For every large pizza you order, share with your family and friends, we will be given a nice percentage of the cost!  Help us support families uprooted by mental illness!

There will be FREE materials for you!

Let us know you are coming!   Flatbreads Fundraiser GASF

A  50/50 raffle with tickets sold (until we are sold out!) at $10/ticket!

Drawing will be on the next day at the “Replanting Lives” support group at the Bedford COA at 7 pm!

We are looking forward to seeing you!

A Snippet of what Grow a Strong Family Offers

Our panel discussion on Aug 29, 2018 went off without a hitch!  Oh, there were hundred degree temperatures outside.  Inside, however, there was cool air and a panel discussion with very knowledgeable  people.  Visit our “Panel” page (https://growastrongfamily.org/panel-discussion/) to see and hear the conversation in its entirety.  For now, enjoy the opening which features the founder of Grow A Strong Family succinctly detailing the many benefits to families that are offered by this organization!

 

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